A true love and a true wedding is not about an image, it is an embodiment of two present people choosing the other in the wholeness of who they are.
Whole love is not possessive
Whole love is embodied love,
Embodied love is addictive, it never stifles.
It uplifts and enhances.
It brings safety so that you can ground into what you truly are.
It creates a space free of walking on eggshells.
It opens up transparency and authenticity in conversations.
Your ability to express your unmet needs and to share your deepest desires
It never has you second guessing yourself.
Rather, it brings more and more clarity to you and what you are.
It comes without shame, guilt or defensiveness
Whole love is a feeling of safety and authenticity
It is not you or your partner holding on or trying to match an IDEA;
We must let go of IDEAS about our partner or our relationship so that we can SEE what’s in front of us.
Whole love is the ability to understand that each moment you are a different version of yourself.
That you are forever evolving and changing, so is your relationship. And so you are choosing each other, not to be a fantasy or live out a dream… it’s to grow together. To find joy in the unfoldment of all of it, WITH SOMEONE.
Whole love invites us to sink into the risk of vulnerability;
The vulnerability to not know what will happen next.
Will they stay or will they go?
Will I stay happy or will that change?
Will we always stay in love?
The odds are that throughout your relationship, a little bit of ALL OF THE ABOVE could come up in questioning. Or else we would not be human.
Whole love invites us to sit in these unknowns and to see beyond them. To stay present and to stay open in our hearts amongst all the change and ambiguity.
